sorry for neglecting you in the past post which was in Slovenian. However it was a huge success, as since it’s been published, more than 1500 people have read it.
I hope I can make it up to you with this one.
I’m currently in a position that’s somewhat blurry and confusing. I need to get some ideas about what to do next. And I need them fast. So fast that one of my friends coaches sensed that and clicked me yesterday on Facebook chat. He coached me and one of the highlights of our conversation was, when he asked: “Do you know what’s insane?” I replied whether he means that insanity is close to brilliance. He said: “No. Insane is when you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results. Apparently you need to do something different”. An obvious Solution Focused principle and it came in about perfect time.
So whenever I find myself in a situation where I need to come up with “something different”, I fasten. For someone whose one of the favourite activities is eating, it’s a nightmare. But I know that this is a powerful means to offer my body an opportunity to heal itself and my brain to think sharp and clear. Not to mention how hungry I got already one hour after skipped breakfast. But as hours passed, so did the vawes of appetite. Meanwhile I managed to cook a delicious lunch for my husband and had no temptation to even taste it (quite proud of my stuborness and discipline!).
In the evening I met a friend and we drank a bottle of champaigne, because it was celebration time due to her lifelong contract which she’s just signed. Also we met for a coaching session, as she has some unfinished things which she would like to sort out. This might have been a slight adjustment to fasting, khm. But it was worth every sip!
We both thought the session was great. Only in the end I was really tipsy for not eating the whole day. What usually happens when fasting, at least in my (very rare) experience is, that the miracle happens at night. When you don’t eat, you don’t get sleepy and tired. Your mind is awake. And when you go to sleep, thinking still happens on a different level. So does reminiscence. And this time it happened again – I woke up at about 3.30am, totally present and focused and observed my thoughts. What I managed to learn, probably with experience and mostly through my Solution Focused training is, that I manage to direct my thoughts in the way that is useful for me. Might not be the same direction as I would like them to go (because it is so lovely to think over what happened or what will happen in terms of rumination), but definitely in the direction that produces useful results. After some time I grabbed a pen and a notebook which I keep on my nightstand for occassions just like this one and started writing down. If I don’t, I hardly remember in the morning what the thought flow was about. I do it in darkness, just write as my hand goes.
It is so much worth it. It has happened to me several times like that already and each time I’m amazed by my own capability of creativity and focus. Too bad I forget this too quickly and too often.